My dad died of a heart attack on my birthday back in 1998. Ever since Sabine was born, I did my best to tell her stories about Abuelo and give her an honest an unvarnished picture of who he was : a great man, that battled a lot of demons.<\/p>\n
Sabine\u2019s recently been asking a lot of questions on a spiritual front – and we\u2019ve done our best to be honest about what we think and what we believe. This got us to the conversation of what happened with Abuelo after he died.<\/p>\n
He was cremated, and is in a shrine that my mom (who is a very dedicated Mexican catholic) has in her room. I told Sabine that when I come over to Pensacola, I tend to lay on Abuelas bed, and I sit and talk to him in my head – Kind of like praying. This year, she had asked to see where he was .. so we went through the process of showing her the urn.<\/p>\n
Another thing we grew up with (and wonder how many other latino families do this) – but we have pictures of the deceased\u2026 in a casket. This is sometimes very weird to visitors who get to see this – but for us is totally normal.<\/p>\n
She got to see him. Got to hear from him. Got to talk to him in her head.. and my mom got to be there for the process..<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"My dad died of a heart attack on my birthday back in 1998. Ever since Sabine was born,…","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":7145,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"csco_singular_sidebar":"","csco_page_header_type":"","csco_page_load_nextpost":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[10,19],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-7144","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-blog","8":"category-family","9":"cs-entry"},"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/aboutrc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7144"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/aboutrc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/aboutrc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aboutrc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aboutrc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=7144"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/aboutrc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7144\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7146,"href":"https:\/\/aboutrc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7144\/revisions\/7146"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aboutrc.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/7145"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/aboutrc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=7144"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aboutrc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=7144"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aboutrc.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=7144"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}